In my quest to figure out how I could have made an important decision so lightly, I have started reading more into the Meyers-Briggs test.
Yes, you know the one. You took it in 8th grade. It was fun and you were surprised by how well it articulated who you were. But you were in 8th grade and nothing seems absolute and many of the words you did not understand. You probably took it again in high school with a little more sincerity but you also wanted to rebel against anything that could pin you down so you again thought it was fun, but didn't look too much into it.
College, the same thing but the Eastern and Western Zodiacs also intrigued you and you lumped the Meyers-Briggs into that same esoteric personality/stars lump. No big deal. Keep it all within arms length. You are your own person!
Then your world gets turned up-side-down. You make an unwise decision and suddenly you are trying to figure out who you are and how the hell you allowed yourself to make a poor decision?
Enter Meyers-Briggs again. This time you pay attention. You read the books about the personality types and about the temperaments. You start trying to figure everyone around you out, including your ESFP long tailed cat.
Suddenly everything comes together and you regret not paying closer attention when you were younger, but you didn't know and deep down you realize you've always had to learn things the hard way.
Mind blown. I am a classic ENFJ- The Teacher, although I think as I've gotten older the line between F and T is a bit blurry and that category is one of my weakest. As an NF (iNtuitive-Feeler also called an "Idealist") I've come to realize that only 25% (ish) of the population is intuitive. This in itself makes sense. This feeling I've had that I didn't fit in and that I thought about things most people didn't think about is statically true. Only 1 in 4 process information intuitively (as oppose to using the five senses) I have always trusted my intuition and rarely has it let me down. Now that things are over with a Sensor (S) type, I've realized that I have to be with someone in the future who is also processes things Intuitively. This is deeply rewarding and will make for a happy future. Unfortunately the numbers aren't in my favor, but one can hold out hope, right?
I ran across this interesting tidbit of info from the book, Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by David Kerisey: "What Idealist wish for in their spouse is a Soulmate, a spouse who knows their feeling without being told of them and who spontaneously expresses words of endearment. They want the marital relationship to be, as they put it, "deep and meaningful," Other types will settle for much less than this. Guardians (ST) would be Helpmates and Artisans (SP) prefer Playmates and wonder what the Idealist means by "deep and meaningful." And Rationales (NT), wishing to share their consciousness with their mates are more for being Mindmates than Soulmates. Here, suffice it to say that Idealist are asking their spouses to something most of them do not understand and do not know how to give."
What? People always made fun of me because I gravitated towards the desire for a soulmate now I realize that is just how I am. It's comforting and scary. This could be a lonely life ahead but I do have confidence. A little over 25% of the population would be well suited, so let's begin. Not now of course, but at some point. I am in no hurry.
In the mean time, I'll keep reading and analyzing. Truly what is more exciting to learn about?
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