2016 Ramblings- The Single Life Has Begun

I'm a terrible blogger. I've accepted the fact that I don't write as much as I did in my 20s and have come to terms with it.

It's now 2016. I am officially divorced. I am officially the sole owner of an awesome house. My job is going well and I am hopeful this year will be better than 2015. My hopes were high for my Chinese Zodiac: Year of the Sheep and in many ways exactly what needed to happen, did, but it still wasn't easy.  Wait... life is supposed to be easy? Ha! Well, that's my problem! Maybe I'll look back on 2015 and think it was the best year ever?

I find myself on the cusp of 2016 in a house occupied by one human and four cats. I've never lived alone in my life but I find it peaceful and what I need. If I could have things my way, I'd live in a commune so I'm sure soon enough I'll get a roommate or restart airbnb, but for now I will enjoy this time in this space. I'll also enjoy only running the dishwasher only once a week!

I knew when I decided to get divorced that I was also stepping away from many secure aspects of marriage including a solid group of married friends who were quickly procreating. I've lived long enough to know when marriage, divorce, children, etc. happen, group dynamics change forever. My group is still there, just busy with their own life and my group of single friends is very narrow. That has been the hardest challenge of divorce is finding people to do things with. Slowly I'm finding those who enjoy being outdoors, going out, having a drink, etc. but it's not like it was in college that's for sure!

I started the weird world of online dating. Very weird. I did not date in my 20s (thank you conservative Christian upbringing) and now I'm having to learn the ropes quickly in this sea of opportunity. For anyone who is a part of this online dating game, I would suggest reading Aziz's Modern Romance. It's been my go-to Dating Bible these days! I don't want to waste time with people I see no future with but I also don't want to be narrow minded. After being in a marriage where my spouse worked every weekend to go to school during the week, I find being able to spend time together really important. If our schedules don't align, what's the point of trying to get together? Dating is weird but there's a part of me who is glad I finally get to experience it.

I hope this year to blog more, to be outside more, to make more friends, to do more yoga, to be a better person, to keep the house clean.

Time will tell all things.